The evening before my dad’s funeral in May 2016, my husband Randy walked our dog Bella. Holding his cell phone in one hand while talking to my mother about his part in the service, the other hand held the leash. Bella’s a big Aussie girl, weighing in around 60 pounds;
and from what I hear, a huge raccoon made an appearance near a sewer opening down the street just as they were walking by. This appearance led Bella to lurch towards the coon…pulling hard on the fingers grasped around the leash, and breaking husband’s finger in the process. Ouch.
Early the next morning, we had to hit the road to make the trip to Iowa Falls and, well, experience what would transpire during my father’s service…and beyond in this world for those of us who loved him and enjoyed his company.
Here’s one of my favorite photos of my dad!
Randy never saw a doctor for his finger injury. I wish he would’ve though. I performed my version of physical therapy and Healing Touch on him, but to this day…well, Randy has a broken middle finger that sticks up in such a way it resembles the image below!
The funeral service was nice, and my mom did a great job choosing the readings and what to sing! Randy read the first reading, my sister Julie the second and Father Tony the Gospel, of course! I was a communion minister for dad’s friends!
Many of dad’s church friends were involved in the Mass Mass and he would’ve loved that! In fact, one of his buddies told me my dad was like a brother to him. At that moment, my heart grew stronger knowing my dad was very special to another person. Clearly, that was God’s presence, and one of many experiences I feel during life!
One good thing was my dad was cremated, so no handling of a heavy casket with a broken finger! Afterwards, we had a nice lunch that my dad would’ve enjoyed as well. Love You Dad!
So, to this day, Randy’s finger exhibits a perpetual flip off! Pretty cool huh? When certain people, like a friend he hasn’t seen in a while, questions why he’s flipping them off, instead of going into detail, he just says “I dunno”. Just recently, he came home from his job and remarked one of his fellow teachers wanted to know why he flipped her off. He smiled and replied ~
A great memory from October of 2016 was of Randy driving into and out of the parking area of the Kansas City Chief’s Arrowhead stadium pre-and post game (they won!). Soo many people, staffers, and cops too! Well, they all got the flip off! But, no one noticed, which to me made it quite comical!
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